Umbuzo
Ngiyilungu le-OA elamukele indlela ethile yokudla. Umxhasi wami wamanje ungiphakamise ukuthi ngizame ukuthola umxhasi ongase ajwayelene kakhulu nale ndlela ethile yokudla ngoba akajwayelene nayo futhi ufuna ngizuze kakhulu ohlelweni kanye nomxhasi. Ingabe unazo iziphakamiso zokuthi ungakwenza kanjani lokho kangcono?
Impendulo
Ubuza umbuzo othakazelisayo. Cishe kunezinhlelo zokudla eziningi ezahlukene njengoba kukhona amalungu e-OA, kanye nezinhlobo eziningi ezahlukene zabaxhasi. Bengilokhu nginomxhasi kusukela ngo-1993 futhi bengilokhu ngingumxhasi cishe isikhathi eside. Nsuku zonke, ngishayela umxhasi wami ucingo ngimtshele ukuthi ngidleni izolo nokuthi ngihlela ukukudla ini namuhla. Angidli lokho okudliwa umxhasi wami, futhi abaxhasi bami abadli lokho engikudlayo. Ngixhase abantu abaningi, bonke benezinhlelo zabo zokudla kanti abanye bafaka izinto engingazidli, njengoshukela.
Abaxhasi abaningi abanawo umbono ngalokho okudlayo abaxhasi babo uma nje begwema ukudla nokuziphatha okubabangela ukuba badle ngokuphoqelekile. Abanye abantu banomxhasi oyedwa obhekana nazo zonke izici zokululama, kanti abanye banabaxhasi abaningi—bokudla, izinyathelo, ukugcinwa, isevisi, njll. Umthwalo wemfanelo oyinhloko wanoma yimuphi umxhasi akukhona ukuqapha ukudla komxhasi kodwa ukusiza umxhasi ukuthi asebenze kuzo zonke Izinyathelo Eziyishumi Nambili ukuze athole ukululama okuhlala njalo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, asibona ochwepheshe, futhi abaxhasi abaningi abanalo ulwazi oluningi ngokudla okunempilo. Sivame ukuncoma ukuthi ufune isiqondiso sochwepheshe, njengochwepheshe wezokudla obhalisiwe, ukuze akusize ngemibuzo mayelana nohlelo lwakho lokudla. Kusebenza kahle kakhulu uma usebenza nomxhasi ojwayelene nohlelo. Izimiso yohlelo njengoba ochwepheshe abaningi bezokudla bengajwayelene ne-OA's Twelve Steps.
Ngakho-ke angiqiniseki ukuthi ufuna noma udinga umxhasi ohlela ukudla ngendlela efanayo nawe, noma umxhasi nje ongaphazanyiswa uhlelo lwakho lokudla. Ungafuna omunye umxhasi emihlanganweni yobuso nobuso noma ye-inthanethi. Kodwa-ke, khumbula. Isiko Leshumi uthi asinaso isikhundla ezindabeni zangaphandle, okuhlanganisa nezinhlelo zokudla. Ngeke kufaneleke ukumemezela emhlanganweni ukuthi ufuna umxhasi olandela uhlelo lwakho oluthile ngoba lokho kungabonakala sengathi kuwukuvunyelwa kwenkinga yangaphandle. Ungase usho nje ukuthi umxhasi wakho wangaphambili wayengazizwa ekhululekile ukukuxhasa ngenxa yecebo lakho lokudla bese uxoxa ngasese ngenkinga. Ungabhala nezinombolo zabaxhasi abatholakalayo, ubathinte, bese ubona ukuthi bazimisele yini ukusebenza nawe ngenkathi ulandela uhlelo lwakho.
—Amalungu eBhodi Labaphathiswa anikeza izimpendulo zale mibuzo
